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Detroit Dominatrix plot ensnares Wayne man, feds say

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Fri, August 25, 2017 04:00:24

Dominatrix plot ensnares Wayne man, feds say

Source: Detroitnews.com.

USA - Detroit — A dominatrix who dished out abuse to men on social media was the one in pain Tuesday after federal prosecutors charged her with extorting cash from a local man.

A 21-page criminal complaint against flame-haired Erica Freeman, 25, of Atlanta details an unusual extortion case that could send the woman to federal prison for two years.

Freeman used social media accounts, including Twitter and Facebook, to extort money from the married Wayne County man, who sent her incriminating photos, according to an investigator with the FBI’s Violent Crime Task Force. Freeman, known online as “Temptress Nirvana,” threatened to expose his infidelity unless he paid cash.

Freeman’s social media posts offer an illustrated gallery of pain and ridicule, including a GIF of Freeman kicking one man in the groin, slapping another in the face with a stack of cash and sitting on another whose face is stuck in a toilet.

Freeman has been arrested and is expected to be arraigned in Detroit in coming days. She could not be reached for comment and there was no attorney listed in her court file.

The FBI case dates to September, when the local man met Freeman after he followed her Twitter account, @nirvanafetish, and liked several posts.

The man sent Freeman several sexually explicit photos and about $5,000 via her PayPal and other accounts over the next four months.

Around Jan. 1, the man briefly stopped communicating with Freeman, who threatened to expose their online relationship unless he paid $10,000, according to investigators.

It is unclear whether Freeman and the man ever met in person.

The man offered the whip-wielding Freeman an olive branch. He sent her a smaller amount, typically $250, every Monday.

Investigators traced the PayPal account to a computer located in a home in Fairburn, Georgia, near Atlanta.

In March, as the man continued sending her money to keep the relationship secret, Freeman mailed him a pair of her red underwear, according to the FBI.

In return, he put the underwear on his head, snapped a photo and sent it to Freeman.

In April, the man tried to end the relationship. Freeman demanded $15,000 and threatened to tell his wife if he failed to pay, prosecutor allege.

Then, the man received several threatening messages.

“I’ll tell everyone you’ve ever met in your entire life. ... I’ll tell the entire state of Michigan,” one message read. “It’s on.

“You can’t (expletive) ignore me you stupid junkie,” read another message. “I swear on my dogs (sic) lives I will contact (your wife) if you keep this up...”

The messages were sent from an email account that investigators traced to a home in Fairburn.

On April 15, the man received another threatening message that included a screen grab of his employer’s website.

“Keep ignoring me and I send everything,” the message read.

Investigators obtained a warrant to search the email account that sent the messages.

Agents traced the email account to Freeman, according to the criminal complaint.

The extortion included a multimedia campaign against the man, the government alleged.

Multiple Twitter accounts were used to post threats and photos, including one picture of the man wearing the red underwear on his head, investigators said.

“You’ll lose your (expletive) job over this just because you won’t speak and have a conversation like a man,” Freeman wrote in one tweet, according to the complaint.

Other tweets included photos of his employer’s website and his wife’s Facebook account.

In mid-April, Freeman called the man’s wife and left a message calling him a pervert, investigators said.

Freeman also used two Facebook accounts to send friend requests to his friends and family, according to the criminal complaint.

One of the Facebook accounts featured a photo of the man wearing red underwear on his head.

Following the threats, calls and social media posts, the man paid Freeman $350.

“In all, (the man) paid Freeman approximately $10,000,” an FBI special agent wrote in the complaint. “The first $5,000 he did of his own free will. (The man) paid the remaining $5,000 ... only because Freeman began threatening to expose their relationship.”

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Madonna's birthday 'golden shower': Amber Rose post of kinky Sex picture branded 'disgusting'

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Fri, August 25, 2017 03:45:37

Madonna's birthday 'golden shower': Amber Rose post of kinky Sex picture branded 'disgusting'
The actress also shared a heartfelt birthday message for the Queen of Pop, which was largely ignored by fans.

Source: Ibtimes.co.uk.

UK - Nothing Amber Rose does stays quiet as she has proven one more time with her latest Instagram post in which she wished a happy birthday to Madonna who turned 59 on 16 August. The image she shared for the event has irked many on social media who found it sexually provocative.

"Happy Birthday to this Feminist icon, Philanthropist, Trendsetter, Musical Maven and Mother @madonna after all of these years you continue to push boundaries and deal with scrutiny with an IDGAF attitude and you've inspired me to do the same. Thank you for being you and letting us women know we can be mothers, daughters, smart as hell and reach for the stars all while being confident in our sexuality," the 33-year-old model wrote on the image sharing website.

This isn't the first time that the picture has caused a stir, as it is taken from from Madonna's 1992 coffee table book titled Sex, in which Madonna set out to demystify sexuality and combat taboo, much to the dismay of conservatives and anti-porn feminists.

The image depicts Madonna standing over a water fountain while another model drinks from its spout. The pair, dressed in BDSM-style outfits, appear to be alluding to the sadomasochistic sexual act known as a golden shower, where one partner urinates on the other.

25 years later, the image has proven just as provocative as fans ignored the heartfelt birthday message and slammed the image as "nasty" and "disgusting".

"Thought she was peeing in her mouth for a second," one fan commented. "Is a girl drinking Madonna's pee," speculated another.

A diehard fan of Madonna jumped in to clarify the golden shower confusion. "Y'all she not drinking pee. Madonna is standing over a water fountain and the lady is drinking it! Damn y'all act dumb," the Instagram user explained.

Rose is a self-proclaimed feminist but on multiple occasions she has received backlash for baring her body in the name of feminism. Many of her followers advised her to motivate young women in a "positive way".

"How is this symbolic for feminism?" one asked.

"Come on Amber Rose grow up you are a mother do something positive in your life," another commented.

"Being a Dominatrix/Nymphomaniac does not & I repeat does not Represent being a Feminist," added another.

Reaction tom verhoeven from BDSMradio.EU.
I love golden showers and these two ladies. And i think all our listeners. smiley

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Shackles off North Toledo sex club

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Fri, August 25, 2017 03:30:15

Shackles off North Toledo sex club

Space for consensual adult activity reopens despite potential zoning violations

Source: Toledoblade.com.

USA -TOLEDO - A private club in North Toledo that offers space for bondage and other forms of sexual activity reopened despite potentially violating Toledo’s zoning code, city officials said Monday.

Tom Gibbons, city plan commission director, inspected the Body Shop nightclub, 5661 Telegraph Rd., on Friday before its reopening event the next night. He took photos, obtained by The Blade, of furniture and other items inside the club.

The venue was most recently called Club 5661 and previously it was the site of Lorain’s Private Studios.

A message on the club’s website read “Body Shop Toledo is excited to reopen as a private [Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism] centric lifestyle club. All activity oriented events cater to those who want to explore bondage fantasies and role play to those dedicated to BDSM full time.”

Toledo Law Director Adam Loukx said that kind of club is not illegal, but the city’s zoning code states a sexually oriented business is not permitted to open within 1,000 feet of another such business. Scarlett’s gentleman’s club is close enough to prohibit sexual activity at the location, he said.

Officials said patrons would have to be caught with their pants down before the owners could be cited.

“It looked like a private club,” Mr. Gibbons said. “There is a dance floor and bar.”

The establishment, when it was called Club 5661, posted pictures online of beds, a multiperson shower, and a St. Andrew’s Cross — an x-shaped cross used for restraining people.

“I took pictures and shared them with the law department,” Mr. Gibbons said. “Until someone witnesses them doing something, you can’t do anything.”

Mr. Loukx said the city “would have to have some eye-witness” accounts before it could act.

“We are very interested in making sure no violations are occurring,” he said.

The city conducted a building code inspection when new ownership took over recently.

Toledo Councilman Lindsay Webb previously said the Toledo Police Department is closely monitoring the establishment.

According to its website, Body Shop has 10 locations in Ohio, Michigan, and Pennsylvania, including one in Findlay. The owners did not respond to a request for comment.

Saturday’s Fet-life Night advertising stated attendees could engage in impact play (whipping, spanking, and paddling), electrical stimulation, sensory play with candle wax and ice, sensory deprivation, bondage, and suspension. Body Shop does not serve alcohol, and rules state “all participants only participate in scenes that are safe, sane, and consensual.”

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Murder victim inadvertently filmed his own death during bondage sex game

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Fri, August 25, 2017 03:16:20

Murder victim inadvertently filmed his own death during bondage sex game

For nearly two years his death was put down to an accident, until his family discovered footage on his computer hard drive

Source: Independent.co.uk.

UK - A computer repairman inadvertently filmed his own horrific murder in a bondage sex session at the hands of a fake policeman, a court has heard.

Jurors at the Old Bailey watched footage of Peter Fasoli begging for his life as he was allegedly attacked by fantasist Jason Marshall, as Wagner and Mendelssohn played on Classic FM in the background.

Mr Fasoli, 58, was tied up, gagged and smothered with cling film after Marshall tricked his way into his home in January 2013, the court heard.

Afterwards, Marshall, 28, set fire to the victim's one-bedroom bungalow in Northolt, west London, to cover up the killing, jurors were told.

For nearly two years, Mr Fasoli's death was put down to an accident until his family discovered footage on his computer hard drive.

His nephew Christopher Murgatroyd examined his fire-damaged computer out of curiosity in November 2014.

Expecting to find research on his family tree, Mr Murgatroyd was horrified to find himself watching his uncle's violent death, jurors heard.

Prosecutor Edward Brown QC warned jurors the attack was "as shocking as it was determined" before playing extracts of the video which went on for six hours.

The defendant first got in contact with Mr Fasoli through gay social networking site Badoo in December 2012 and offered to set up a threesome, the Old Bailey heard.

Marshall arrived at the victim's home at around 7pm on January 6 purporting to be a law enforcement officer kitted out with a police utility belt, handcuffs and a pistol holster, the court heard.

During sexual role play, Marshall stripped the victim and arrested him for "being a spy" and hacking into a Government laptop, the court heard.

The footage showed Mr Fasoli become visibly distressed as he was gagged and bound on his bed.

He was threatened with a large hunting knife and forced to hand over his cash card pin numbers, the court heard.

Marshall muttered "suspect detained" after injecting him with a drug to "put you to sleep while I go to the cash machine", jurors heard.

The victim then screamed that he could not breathe and began to "squeal" as Marshall clamped his hand over his nose and put his arm around his neck, the court was told.

The pair struggled together on the bed and Mr Fasoli shouted out "No, no, please!" when Marshall produced a roll of cling film and wrapped it around his face.

Marshall, who was shown in the video wearing latex gloves, then held a plastic bag over Mr Fasoli's head for a minute and 42 seconds, jurors were told.

Afterwards, the defendant spoke into his radio saying: "Oscar one, from papa four, ready for transport, over," jurors heard.

Later, the victim could be heard gurgling as Marshall checked for a pulse and spoke into his radio, allegedly saying: "Urgent ambulance required at my GPS location... yeah that's lack of oxygen and can I get them with a crash trolley please."

Mr Brown said: "Obviously there was no real radio connected to anyone, let alone an ambulance.

"There is an ominous determination and seriousness in the way the defendant is carrying out the task, as he sees it. There is no emotion, no panic, no regret."

As Mr Fasoli lay dying on the floor, Marshall allegedly stood and "calmly" lit a cigarette then made the sign of the cross and recited a blessing for the departed in Latin - Patris et Filii et Spiritus Sancti - and the word resurrection.

When the visual flickered off, the audio continued as the defendant tidied up, jurors heard.

At 12.41am, the sound of a cigarette lighter being flicked could be heard before footsteps leaving the flat.

The crackle of flames taking hold and a fire alarm were also caught just before the recording ended.

After he fled the scene, Marshall sent a "calculated and cynical" message to Mr Fasoli on the Badoo chat line apologising for not seeing him the night before.

He allegedly withdrew £400 in cash from the victim's bank and used his card to buy a flight to Rome.

A post-mortem examination initially gave the cause of Mr Fasoli's death as inhalation of fire fumes.

A re-examination found he was still alive when the fire was set but restraint and asphyxia also contributed to his death, Mr Brown said.

Marshall, of East Ham, east London, denies murder. The trial was adjourned until Tuesday.

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Sex work gave me confidence says 25-stone dominatrix who earned big money sitting on men eating PIZZA

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Fri, August 25, 2017 02:54:18

Sex work gave me confidence says 25-stone dominatrix who earned big money sitting on men eating PIZZA
Miranda Kane, 36, of Finchley, London, worked as a big beautiful woman (BBW) escort in London for seven years - using the name Melody

Source: Mirror.co.uk.

UK-LONDON - A 25-stone comedienne is spilling steamy secrets about her former life as a dominatrix – revealing how she could earn several hundreds of pounds by sitting on men while eating pizza.

Miranda Kane, 36, of Finchley, London, worked as a big beautiful woman (BBW) escort in London for seven years.

Using the name Melody, she would charge up to £2,000 for a night in a rented flat, also in London, where she’d make the fantasies of men aged 18 to 80 come true.

Some of their kinks included being spanked with wooden spoons, or popping balloons with different body parts.

“The things you can do with inanimate objects baffles me,” said Miranda, who is originally from Dorset.

“A lot of the time I think, ‘How do you find this a turn on?’”

Miranda became a sex worker at 23, after her dream career in stand-up comedy failed to materialise.

Before this, she had quit her miserable job in telesales and started working part-time in Ann Summers, the saucy underwear and sex toys shop.

She was also going on dates with men she met through Yahoo! chatrooms and OkCupid online dating site.

At first, she said she was surprised by the amount of male attention she received, as she was used to being overlooked because of her size.

“I was the biggest girl in my village, and people always said I had a nice face or lovely personality,” she recalled.

“But suddenly there were guys who liked me because of my body.”

Many of the men Miranda met up with were simply after no strings attached sex.

Feeling used when they failed to ask her out on a proper dinner date, she began to wonder if she could charge them for the pleasure of her company.

“At least then they’d be upfront about their intentions,” she said.

After trawling the internet for a BBW escorts website, she uploaded her picture and phone number to one.

She assumed nothing would come of it but, within half an hour, she had been contacted by a man staying in a posh hotel on Park Lane.

That evening, she earned £300 by spending an hour with him.

She didn’t sleep with him, and said she felt great afterwards, and that it’d been more like a date.

“I invested that £300 in lacy knickers and stockings as I’d gone to my first assignment in socks and commando, without pants, as it was a laundry day,” she said.

In time, Miranda realised there was more popularity in dominatrix work, so began to move into that.

She continued: “I started off escorting and I didn’t know much about dominating.

“But lots of guys would tell me they wanted to be dominated and they didn’t know how, so it was a natural progression.

“One man’s pain is definitely another man’s pleasure.

“They’re probably getting sex and the girlfriend experience at home, so are coming to me for something more kinky.”

By the time she had reached 30, the number of BBW sex workers in London had skyrocketed.

No longer interested in competing for business, Miranda turned her attention to comedy.

Finding that people were fascinated – and amused – by her tales of her life as an escort, she was inspired to take to the stage to help humanise sex work.

She said: “Before, I wasn’t comfortable with the way I looked and I had lost confidence in myself.

“Sex work gave me confidence in what I looked like and gave me something to say.

“I signed up for a six-week course and entered the Camden Fringe.”

Since then, Miranda hasn’t looked back.

Now, she shocks and delights audiences with her wacky tales of her former life.

The show, billed ‘The Coin Operated Girl,’ has toured Edinburgh festival four times.

She is also releasing an audio sitcom called ‘Slaving Away’- a fictionalised comedy of her experiences, which she was inspired to write after becoming frustrated at unrealistic portrayals of sex workers in mainstream media.

She said: “Sex workers are always shown as people addicted to drugs, people who are being trafficked or as being like Billie Piper’s part in the TV show adaptation of Belle Du Jour.

“She never had any friends, was chasing after one guy and lived in a mansion block on the South Bank.

“There was no scene of her getting drunk with her friends at a Wetherspoon’s on a Friday night – which is what my life was like.”

Link: Mirandakane.co.uk.

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This cruise ship is just one massive sex party

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Fri, August 25, 2017 00:38:13

This cruise ship is just one massive sex party

Source: NYpost.com.

USA - Open-minded folks will get the chance to enjoy a life on the ocean waves on board the world’s most outrageous sex cruise.

The X-rated trip — dubbed “The Naughty Cruise” — will see hundreds of couples from all over the world leave their inhibitions on land for four days of non-stop adult fun.

The devilish vacation sets off from the “City of Angels” on October 3 before arriving back in LA on Oct. 7.

Unlike a “normal” cruise there is no afternoon bingo, no kids’ room and definitely no formal black tie dinner with the captain.

In fact, the dress regulations are simple — the kinkier, the better.

The raunchy cruises are organized by kinky husband and wife couple Bob and Tess Hannaford.

They’re the same people who launched the hugely popular Naughty in N’awlins trip in 1999.

The 2,000-passenger LA cruise first set sail in 2004 and is more popular than ever.

Organized by Couples Cruise, it features outrageous on-deck fancy dress parties, naked body paint, kinky sex instruments and 24-hour nudity.

Bob, the president of Couples Cruise, said: “There is a lot of sex on our ships.”

“Our cruises get people excited and couples tell me all the time how our Couples Cruises have rekindled their passion and that they had more sex on our cruise with their partner than they have had in months.”

“We certainly do get swingers on board and many of them are looking for other potential partners.”

Besides plenty of kinky playrooms, the ships also has dungeons, dark rooms, rooms for the ladies and an ever changing lineup of themed rooms for those looking for something different.

Ever since the book series “50 Shades of Grey” hit the stores, the dungeons have seen more action than ever before.

Bob said: “We picked some great dungeon masters and monitors that not only teach informative classes and perform erotic demonstrations, but they oversee the play at night to make sure everything is safe, sane and consensual.”

The boat — which heads to Ensenada in Mexico then back to LA – also has a tantra center where couples can learn about the art of sensual touch.

There are massage classes and even “group sessions” which allow the more amorous couples to explore their boundaries and have fun with others.

Link:
Website: Theswingercruise.com.

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10 questions you've always wanted to ask dominatrix Aviva

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 04:04:52

10 questions you've always wanted to ask dominatrix Aviva
Don't be shy. Goddess Aviva Diamond will teach you everything you're yearning to learn about her life as a dominatrix.

Source: Metro.us.

USA - When you think of sexual domination, what do you imagine? A vinyl-clad dominatrix heartlessly unleashing humiliation on wimps and pencil pushers in a seedy sex dungeon? A red-lipped seductress in stilettos whipping a leather-masked subject or a man-hater unable to function in “polite society?”

Goddess Aviva Diamond, whom we met at the NSFW "playdate" in Brooklyn, practices femdom (female dominance) in her professional and personal life. She takes on clients looking to be submissives and has “slaves” that cater to her after work is over.

We made a list of 10 questions we were dying to ask Goddess Aviva about her place in the world of bondage/discipline, dominance/submission and sadism/masochism, known as BDSM, and kink.

This is what she had to say:

Do you have sex with clients?
I do not have sex with clients. Femdom sessions are not about a client seeing a naked woman or getting off. Sessions are about playing with power exchange for a mind-f—k. For most clients this is really hot, so while there is sexual tension, I do not offer nudity or typical sexual activities – no penetration, no oral, no foot or hand jobs, etc. For these men, activities such as crawling on their hands and knees to kiss my feet are arousing.

Do you get off or does it just become work for you?
What I get from sessions is not sexual satisfaction, but the thrill and high from the power exchange — the mental “getting off” of controlling another person and using them for my amusement. Personally, it feels amazing to have a man groveling at my feet and begging for another slap in the face. I only choose clients I have a connection with and will enjoy dominating, so while it is work, I thoroughly enjoy what I do.

You must get this all the time, but is it like “50 Shades of Grey”?
No, it’s immeasurably better. The real thing exceeds the movie in every way.

What kind of clients do you get and does anything about them affect the rate for a session, like attractiveness?
Most of my clients are privileged white men: 6-feet tall, fit, in their 30s, usually working in a high-powered position. These men are used to being in control, getting what they want and having women cater to their desires. It’s exciting for them to experience the polar opposite of their day-to-day.

My rates change depending on the complexity of a session and the effort and energy I put into it. Deciding factors on whether I choose a client are their communication skills, aligned interests, respect and obedience, and openness to submitting and exploring. Attractiveness does not play a role.

Do you take married clients? And, if so, how do you feel about helping people potentially cheat on their spouses?
Yes, I do take married clients, and I feel great about it. Many of these men live life as an alpha male. They are in charge at work and at home, and they are the dominant ones in their marriage. Imagine if they told their wives they wanted to be forced to wear panties while being humiliated and beaten. It would completely change their relationship and likely cause damage to their personal life. Sometimes it’s best to compartmentalize, and not expect your partner to fulfill all your needs.

What is the “weirdest” request you’ve ever gotten?
Much of the communication occurs before I physically meet someone, so by the time we are actually having a session the boundaries and expectations have already been established, and we are both comfortable and excited about the session. If someone sends me a message requesting something outside of my boundaries, I simply don’t respond. My ideas of what are “normal” are likely very different from the average person. For example, it’s quite common for a client to want to get pissed on, wear women’s lingerie or be treated like a dog. These requests don’t shock me.

One of the strangest session requests I had was from a man wanting to go to a barber shop with me where I would force him to get a buzz cut, get a buzz cut myself, and then go shopping for earrings.

Do you ever turn down potential clients or the requests of your clients?
All the time. I’m very selective of who I session with, and some of the guys contacting me simply don’t have a clue. If you are at all disrespectful or show me that you haven’t read about me before contacting me, I will not respond or simply block you.

You’re dominant in your private life. How do you decide to take a client into your personal life and how is the difference distinguished?
Sometimes a client who is paying for professional sessions will also serve me personally. For example, a client will run a couple errands for me and deliver dinner before we have a session. It can work in reverse as well. Sometimes a personal slave of mine will want to have a professional session to target a specific area of training or discipline. At this point in my development, the lines between my personal and professional life are often blurred, and I’ve become comfortable with defining and redefining the boundaries with a submissive as our dynamic evolves. The great thing about BDSM is that as long as you are practicing SSC (safe, sane and consensual), there are no set rules, and you get to create how it works for you.

Does your job affect your dating life?
As I am kinky, non-monogamous and very open with what I do, I only date people who are open-minded and support my work and personal life. This means I usually date within fetish or poly communities. While traditional dating and relationship roles don’t interest me, I’ve had very loving relationships while working as a dominatrix. I believe it’s possible to have it all.

Does your family know about your job and lifestyle? If so, what do they think?
Most of them do, and I’m blessed that they fully support me. They see that I’m living my truth, enjoying what I do, and making a positive impact on my clients and slaves. I’ve never been happier.

What would you ask Goddess Aviva?

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LINKS:
Website: Goddessaviva.com.
Twitter: Twitter.com/GoddessAviva.
Instagram: Instagram.com/thegoddessaviva.
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This is what it is like to make a living as a financial dominatrix

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 03:43:26

This is what it is like to make a living as a financial dominatrix
SHE blackmails men, uses their credit cards and even completely drains their bank accounts, but no-one is complaining. WARNING: Graphic content

Source: News.com.au.

AUSTRALIA - THE internet has made it easier to shop, find recipes, read restaurant reviews and play online games.

Then there are people like Olivia Coxxx who use the internet to make a tidy income.

She isn’t a tech entrepreneur with an innovative start-up but a dominatrix who helps men explore their deepest fantasies in what she describes as a safe and professional environment.

Her speciality?
She’s not offering to inflict pain on anyone. Instead she prefers to punish and humiliate beta males — especially financially — and she has plenty of customers than happy to pay for the experience.

Customers can pay $100 per 20 minutes of contact on Skype or meet her in person at a cost of $450 for one hour or $800 for two.

The 25-year-old from Melbourne said she works out the terms and conditions prior to payment and once the funds clear in her account, she goes about delivering a service.

WHAT TYPE OF THINGS DO PEOPLE WANT?
The services offered by financial dominatrixes are complex to say the least.

Olivia said one of the most basic is “ignoring” — a service where clients pay for access to her webcam so they can watch her buy herself gifts online with their credit card.

“A client will pay me to have a session where I sit around and ignore him, usually I’ll be on the phone to girlfriends talking about ‘pathetic beta males’,” she told news.com.au.

“I think the appeal here is clients want to be powerless against an attractive woman.”

From here, things get a little kinkier with Olivia using blackmail to extort her clients — only it’s not as nefarious at it sounds.

“This is where a client will organise to be consensually ‘blackmailed’ into performing sex acts or paying money,” she said.

“I can go through private things like Facebook and threaten to tell their friends and family their dirty secrets.

“Limits and terms are always worked out before the booking.”

The rabbit hole of financial domination also leads to another popular one of her services known as “gay escorting” — where the men become sex workers themselves to raise funds for her services.

“I am one of the only sex workers in Australia that offers this service. I get so many requests for this, but very few will actually do it,” she said.

“Often clients will ask to do this if they are interested in fin domme [financial domination] and don’t have funds. It can be difficult as the client needs to follow sex work laws for the state that they visit me in.

“Often it’s just a fantasy they want to talk about in session but never actually eventuates, however I have had a few lifestyle slaves that have very much enjoyed escorting for my benefit.”

FINANCIAL DRAINING
The concept of Olivia’s profession is not new, with a number of dating sites for people looking to receive gifts or money for being in a relationship.

But from the perspective of a fin domme, the purpose is always about giving the client a rush from “serving a higher entity”, which just happens to be her.

While this might sound like an easy way to make money, the 25-year-old admits this is far from a get-rich-quick scheme.

“The misinterpretation about fin domme is that clients will just ring up asking to give you exorbitant amounts of money for nothing. In real life there’s actually a lot more to it,” she said.

“Because this is a lifestyle choice for a lot of my clients, they often don’t have a lot of money -even if they have well paying jobs/careers, usually they serve a number of mistresses.”

Olivia says she spent a number of years building a career for herself in the unique subculture.

“This isn’t something I do everyday, I might work a few times a week,” she said.

“I’m very stringent about vetting new clientele. In saying this, it is certainly a profitable industry.”

Just like any profession, there is good with the bad.

In Olivia’s case, the bad often comes when her customers try to get the money back.

“I’ve noticed a lot of clients can experience ‘buyer’s remorse’ after a heavy draining session,” she said.

“They get off and are consenting to being financially drained in the moment, but afterwards they will try and reverse transactions or ‘scam’ service providers.

“This is hugely problematic — imagine if you did your job and then your employer suddenly, at the end of the week decided he didn’t want to pay you.”

Olivia said for this reason it’s very important to keep clear boundaries, work out exactly what the client’s limits are and ensure payments have all cleared before they are given any time.

When it comes to the extent of the spending, the dominatrix admits she has been responsible for completely draining her client’s bank accounts — a fact she feels no guilt over.

“We are two consenting adults that have pre-decided all limits and terms of the arrangement. I am doing my job — they have actively found me to do this, I don’t approach them, they approach me,” she said.

“Does a lawyer feel bad when they hand an invoice to their clients? I hate that suggestion, it implies that money obtained through sex work is less valid than other industries.”

THE REALITIES OF HER PROFESSION
Olivia had always been curious about the sex industry and just after her 18th birthday she tried escorting for the first time, before trying stripping and being a cam girl.

But it wasn’t until recently that she started focusing on developing her skills as a humiliatrix and fin domme provider.

“I really love this work. It is my passion and if it was more socially acceptable, I would say I’d do this forever,” she said.

“Hopefully the stigma around sex work changes. It makes applying for things like rentals and loans very difficult.

“It’s an everyday battle to school people about the realities of sex work so they can understand it’s a legal and valid profession.”

Olivia is thankful for the internet as it has changed the industry over the years, making it easier to connect clients with people to fulfil their fantasies.

However, the internet does have its downfalls when it comes to concealing sex worker’s identities — something she learnt the hard way

“I used to hide my identity mainly to protect my mum from knowing the full extent of my involvement in the industry,” she said.

“However, my identity was ‘outed’ to my mum by an ex-partner and another worker recently, so I now choose to disclose my face in my advertisements.”

Thankfully, her mother and friends have been supportive, even if they do worry about her safety.

“I do sometimes experience the stigma and alienation from acquaintances, but once I have a chat to the individual and they learn more about the industry, they are usually pleasantly surprised.”

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LINKS:
Website: Oliviacoxxx.com.
Twitter: Twitter.com/ausoliviacoxxx.







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'Dominatrix' charged with extortion of Mount Kisco man

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 03:28:14

'Dominatrix' charged with extortion of Mount Kisco man

Source: Lohud.com.

USA - WATERBURY - A Connecticut woman authorities say advertised dominatrix services online has been charged with extorting a Mount Kisco man by threatening to release videos of the client unless he paid her off.

The Republican-American reports that Fatin Ann Ward is being held on $100,000 bond on charges of second-degree larceny, voyeurism with malice and disseminating voyeuristic materials.

Authorities say Ward and the Mount Kisco, New York, man made contact through Backpage.com.

He told police he paid Ward $250 for two sessions but noticed she was using her phone during the second encounter. He says she threatened to post video online where his family and friends could find it.

The two negotiated payments of more than $5,000, and he paid more than half that before contacting police.

Ward denied the charges when interviewed by police.

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Over two thirds of women love this kinky act and wish men would do it more

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 03:18:37

Over two thirds of women love this kinky act and wish men would do it more
It turns out most women are turned on by this one thing

Source: Thesun.co.uk.

UK - WHEN it comes to sex, everyone has their own little foibles

But it turns out over two thirds of women like some spanky with their hanky panky.

A new survey by sex toy retailer, Lovehoney, asked 3,751 people about their sexual preferences and whether they have tried bondage moves.

Three quarters of the women said they had tried spanking and a massive 70 per cent of women said they would like their partners to do it more often.

The survey also found that over half – 57.3 per cent – went in for being tied up and 55 percent had tried a blindfold.

Biting was a favourite with £55.2 per cent,17.4 per cent like rope bondage and 16 per cent practiced orgasm denial.

The survey also asked what women would like their partners to do more often and, not surprisingly, foreplay, kissing and more orgasms were the top three.

Last week a young couple told how they hook up with up to three single girls or couples a week in our Diary of a Swinger.

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Why man in a thong and gimp mask was led through Hull on a lead

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 03:03:37

Why man in a thong and gimp mask was led through Hull on a lead

Source: Hulldailymail.co.uk.

UK - HULL - Strippers on stag dos are old hat. What you need for a raucous night of celebratory pre-wedding plans is a Dommegram – and a bit of mild whipping.

Mistress Dita is a well-known face in the city for her career choice as a dominatrix, her charity work with the homeless and her car advertising her services is probably the most photographed in Hull.

Now stag dos and party-goers can pay for Dita to assert her dominance in what is often seen as some peoples "last night of freedom".

"It's a Dommegram and lasts about half an hour," said Dita, who has appeared on Channel 4 with actor Rupert Everett to discuss her profession.

"It's about public humiliation and there's some mild whipping involved, as well as walking around on a lead. Everything is pre-planned and I get permission from the venue beforehand.

"It's usually set up by the stag's friends and a lot of them don't know what's going to be happening."

While the stag often has no knowledge of what is going to happen on their big night, they don't have to do anything they feel uncomfortable with.

A Dommegram takes the actions of being a Dominatrix out into the public and is used as half an hour of fun for all involved. Being a Dominatrix involves dominating customers and them being sub-servient for sexual pleasure, and can often include sharp objects such as needles and knives, as well as handcuffs, masks and gags.

Since no sex is involved, clients are just paying for verbal or physical domination, it's all good, clean fun. Dita, real name Julie, stresses that it's all above board – she's registered with the tax office as a dominatrix and hires an accountant to keep track of the business.

The Dommegram services usually cost from £100 to £150, with prices dependant on the amount of people in the party and the time of day or night.

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Bondage-lover, 43, ‘tortured woman, 27, with a home-made “shocker” as he sent 240 volts through her vagina while she was strapped to a restraint board’

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 02:53:36

Bondage-lover, 43, ‘tortured woman, 27, with a home-made “shocker” as he sent 240 volts through her vagina while she was strapped to a restraint board’
*Keiren Batten was 'obsessed with sadomasochistic sexual practices', court heard
*Alleged victim said she consented to kinky sex after Batten labelled her 'boring'
*Cambridge Crown Court heard acts went beyond those in Fifty Shades of Grey

Source: Dailymail.co.uk.

UK - CAMBRIDGE - A sadomasochist tortured a woman with a home-made 'shocker', sending 240 volts through her vagina while she was strapped to a wooden board, a court was told.

The alleged victim, 27, told police the sexual antics of Keiren Batten went much further than anything featured in the infamous Fifty Shades of Grey film and novels.

She revealed how she went along with the wishes of Batten, 43, after he told her she was 'boring in bed'.

The jury was told by prosecutor Simon Wilshire that the controlling and dominant Batten was 'obsessed with sadomasochistic sexual practices'.

'He used her to satisfy his physical, dangerous sexual desires [with] bondage, sadism and restraint,' he told Cambridge Crown Court.

It is claimed that Batten, of Hitchin, Herts, introduced a home-made electrical shocking device into their sex life.

The alleged victim says she consented the first time - in which the device was attached to her nipples - as she was unaware of what the pain would be like.

But the prosecutor said that when she realised what it was like she told him it was a 'step too far' and she never wanted to do it again.

Mr Wilshire said that on a later occasion she allowed Batten to attach it to her vagina after he said he would not switch on the electricity.

However is alleged he then went back on his word and turned on the current.

In her video-taped police interview, the young woman explained how the pair's kinky sex life began.

She said: 'It started with dressing gown cords and my arms tied to the end of the bed, like Fifty Shades of Grey but then it got further and further and I felt really uncomfortable but I just took it because he said I was boring.'

'I have never done that with anyone. He didn't do it out of nastiness but it would progress. He would bring like camping rope, proper thick rope.

'Then he brought the board and told me what it was for. I thought he was having a laugh but no, he was pretty serious.

'The first few times he put me on it, it was not horrible at all. I felt brave enough to go on it. Like whipping, to give pleasure, not pain.'

The woman said the wooden bondage board was about six foot long.

'I would be strapped down, arms tied to screws in the board and there are silver metal chains which cut into your wrists. And you would be tied around the waist.'

The jury heard that Batten sometimes whipped her 'black and blue'. He had paddle whips and implements with metal spikes which left 'pinprick holes'.

The alleged incident in 2014 which led to the charge of sexual assault relating to electrocution of her genitals began when Batten brought what he called a 'shocker'.

The witness said: 'It's basically a plug with a lamp lead. It goes into the mains and the wires are split off with crocodile clips.

'The first time it was on the breasts. I was face down on the board. It bruised my hips where I jumped and slammed down on the board.'

She described feeling scared about what he was going to do while she was tied down.

'He turned it on and I just caught my breath because you think you are going to die. I have never experienced anything so hideous in my life.

'I never went on the board again. After that "I was rubbish in bed" and "everybody else was better", "I was just a prude".'

The witness said: 'He calls it a torture and it is torture really. As I got a bit braver I said no and that's when he got bored and went elsewhere.'

She described Batten as someone who 'cheated countless times'.

Batten denies sexual assault and two offences of common assault involving an alleged head butt and a push during arguments.

The woman went to the police to complain he was harassing her after she stopped seeing him and the alleged sexual assault emerged during interview.

In his defence, Batten claims that the woman never went on the board and that the sex was consensual.

He says he was the one on the board and the clips were attached to him, not her.

The trial continues.

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Obsessed With Sexual Piercings? You’re Not Alone

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 02:41:43

Obsessed With Sexual Piercings? You’re Not Alone

Source: Refinery29.com.

USA - Brooke* had both her nipples pierced when she was 18. At first, she says, she was simply drawn to the aesthetic. Upon further research, she learned that nipple piercings could increase sensitivity, which she saw as a much-welcome bonus. A decade later, at 28, Brooke says the horizontal barbells have made her sex life better and continue to turn her on — and her partner can't get enough.

The fancy name for being turned on by body piercings and tattoos (body modifications done with a needle) is stigmatophilia. The term can be applied to both those turned on by their own piercings as well as the enjoyment of their partner's piercings and tats. While body piercers say genital and nipple piercings are on the rise, and celebrities from Rihanna to Kendall Jenner are rumored to have their nipples done, there's not much research on stigmatophilia. Though we definitely can't make assumptions about anyone's motivation for getting a genital or nipple piercing, one study published in the 1993 issue of Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality found that of the 362 surveyed individuals with pierced nipples (292 men and 70 women) the majority reported having them done for sexual interest.

“THE HORIZONTAL BARBELLS HAVE MADE HER SEX LIFE BETTER AND CONTINUE TO TURN HER ON — AND HER PARTNER CAN'T GET ENOUGH.”

While some folks, like Brooke, head to a reputable piercing shop, others see the piercing experience as a sexual act, which they may do with a partner or even a pro-domme. "Piercings fit into a larger category [of kink] called needle play. It's a common thing that pro-dommes see," says Michael Aaron PhD, a kink-friendly NYC-based sex therapist and author of Modern Sexuality: The Truth about Sex and Relationships. Mistress Bettie Bondage, a professional dominatrix and BDSM educator, says many of her clients ask to be pierced. "As a sadist, I am more than happy to comply," Bondage says.

Unlike Brooke's nipple piercings, which are still in use a decade after she had them done, most of the piercings Bondage performs on her (primarily male) clientele are done with needles and are temporary. That means she'll pierce them with needles during their session, then remove the needles when the session ends without actually inserting jewelry. Bondage says that the puncture holes will last a few days to a week, and other than small bruising, the evidence of her client's kink will fade fairly quickly without leaving permanent marks.

Like most kinks, stigmatophilia casts a wide net. Compared to those like Brooke, who are drawn to the aesthetic and sexual pleasure piercings in erogenous zones can provide, Aaron says that people who go to professional dominatrixes to satisfy their desires typically enjoy being pierced for the intense physical sensation of being penetrated with a needle.

ILLUSTRATED BY MALLORY HEYER.

Brooke* had both her nipples pierced when she was 18. At first, she says, she was simply drawn to the aesthetic. Upon further research, she learned that nipple piercings could increase sensitivity, which she saw as a much-welcome bonus. A decade later, at 28, Brooke says the horizontal barbells have made her sex life better and continue to turn her on — and her partner can't get enough.

The fancy name for being turned on by body piercings and tattoos (body modifications done with a needle) is stigmatophilia. The term can be applied to both those turned on by their own piercings as well as the enjoyment of their partner's piercings and tats. While body piercers say genital and nipple piercings are on the rise, and celebrities from Rihanna to Kendall Jenner are rumored to have their nipples done, there's not much research on stigmatophilia. Though we definitely can't make assumptions about anyone's motivation for getting a genital or nipple piercing, one study published in the 1993 issue of Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality found that of the 362 surveyed individuals with pierced nipples (292 men and 70 women) the majority reported having them done for sexual interest.

“THE HORIZONTAL BARBELLS HAVE MADE HER SEX LIFE BETTER AND CONTINUE TO TURN HER ON — AND HER PARTNER CAN'T GET ENOUGH.”

While some folks, like Brooke, head to a reputable piercing shop, others see the piercing experience as a sexual act, which they may do with a partner or even a pro-domme. "Piercings fit into a larger category [of kink] called needle play. It's a common thing that pro-dommes see," says Michael Aaron PhD, a kink-friendly NYC-based sex therapist and author of Modern Sexuality: The Truth about Sex and Relationships. Mistress Bettie Bondage, a professional dominatrix and BDSM educator, says many of her clients ask to be pierced. "As a sadist, I am more than happy to comply," Bondage says.

Unlike Brooke's nipple piercings, which are still in use a decade after she had them done, most of the piercings Bondage performs on her (primarily male) clientele are done with needles and are temporary. That means she'll pierce them with needles during their session, then remove the needles when the session ends without actually inserting jewelry. Bondage says that the puncture holes will last a few days to a week, and other than small bruising, the evidence of her client's kink will fade fairly quickly without leaving permanent marks.

Like most kinks, stigmatophilia casts a wide net. Compared to those like Brooke, who are drawn to the aesthetic and sexual pleasure piercings in erogenous zones can provide, Aaron says that people who go to professional dominatrixes to satisfy their desires typically enjoy being pierced for the intense physical sensation of being penetrated with a needle.

“PEOPLE WHO GO TO PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIXES TO SATISFY THEIR DESIRES TYPICALLY ENJOY BEING PIERCED FOR THE INTENSE PHYSICAL SENSATION OF BEING PENETRATED WITH A NEEDLE.”

If you're turned on by the idea genital and nipple piercings and think you might want to try it, first take the time to consider what you like about them, and proceed from there. If you just want your nipples or clitoral hood pierced because you enjoy the aesthetics and are curious about the increased sensitivity, make sure to do your research and seek out a reputable piercing parlor that follows safety and sterilization guidelines.

It's also important to consider health and safety if you're looking for the sensation of needle penetration itself, outside of a parlor.

Professional dominatrixes such as Bondage use RACK (risk aware consensual kink) and SSC (safe, sane, and consensual) guidelines when working with clients: These are standards adopted by the BDSM community that help keep any risky fetish activities safe and consensual. Bondage says she also keeps surfaces clean and sterile when using piercing instruments, opting for hospital-grade cleaning products for counters and trays, wears gloves, and always sanitizes both herself and her clients.

But it's important to be aware of the risks, too. Even when done at reputable studios, complications from sexual piercings can arise, resulting in temporary or permanent loss of sensation. If you're new to piercings and simply interested in a lasting sexual piercing rather than being someone's pincushion, seeking out a licensed professional piercer is the best place to start.

*Last name has been withheld for privacy.

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Suffolk teacher spared ban after ‘bondage’ porn memory stick discovered on classroom floor by pupil

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 02:32:02

Suffolk teacher spared ban after ‘bondage’ porn memory stick discovered on classroom floor by pupil

Source: Eadt.co.uk.

UK - SUFFOLK - A Suffolk teacher who took a memory stick loaded with pornography into school has been allowed to continue working in education.

Joel Gunning admitted he had taken the pen drive into Bungay High School last April, when it was found on the classroom floor by a pupil.

It contained almost 2,500 images and videos, including material categorised as BDSM (bondage, domination, sadomasochism), along with documents containing pornographic references and text.

Suffolk police viewed the device and took no further action against Gunning, who was head of drama and an English teacher for five years, but is understood to no longer be employed at the school.

He was suspended last May pending an investigation into his conduct. When interviewed by the school, he confirmed the drive belonged to him and that it contained pornography.

A professional conduct panel found he had failed to maintain appropriate professional standards by creating a situation whereby pupils could be exposed to viewing pornography, including pornography which could be deemed extreme.

Gunning admitted unacceptable professional conduct and conduct that may bring the profession into disrepute.

The panel said he had breached standards which dictate that teachers uphold public trust in the profession and maintain high standards of ethics and behaviour, within and outside school.
A report by the National College for Teaching and Leadership called it a “serious misconduct” which fell significantly short of the standards expected of the profession.

It said public confidence in the profession could be seriously weakened if Gunning’s actions were not treated with the utmost seriousness.

The panel said it had carefully considered the effect of a ban, but that his conduct appeared to have been an isolated ‘one-off’ incident and, although there was a potential for the well-being of pupils to be impacted, there was no evidence it had happened.

Evidence also suggested that Gunning’s actions were not deliberate; that he had a previously good record at the school, where he was employed for more than 10 years since qualifying as a teacher.

Decision maker Jayne Millions, on behalf of education secretary, agreed with the recommendation.

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Web developer loses job over his kinky sexual interests

BDSM Media NewsPosted by tom verhoeven Thu, May 04, 2017 00:04:55

Web developer loses job over his kinky sexual interests(Drupal)

Source: Metro.co.uk.

USA - A web developer has been expelled from a project, after his interest in BDSM was brought to light.

Larry Garfield, a prominent contributor to the open source Drupal content management system, was told ‘his belief system is inconsistent with [the] project’s goals’.

He was then asked to distance himself from Drupal, according to The Register.

Writing in a blog post, Mr Garfield claimed details of his personal life had been leaked, in particular, his interest in BDSM and Gorean (NSFW) communities.

He admitted that he had been ‘involved in several consensual Master/slave relationships with women’ and said he would ‘continue to do so’.

Gorean subculture is a fandom which centres around recreating the culture of male dominance and female sexual servitude.

These ideas and fantasies are depicted in John Norman’s Gor sci-fi novels.

The techie wrote: ‘In recent months knowledge of my personal life has ‘leaked,’ and turned into a FUD campaign against me that has now reached Drupal’s leadership.

‘Therefore, I feel I have no alternative but to lay out who and what I am, and express my utter disgust with the way many in this community have behaved toward me.’

The developer believes someone stumbled across his profile on a private website for people interested in alternative lifestyles.

He says screenshots were taken of a seven-year-old post and the details were passed to Drupal’s Community Working Group.

The Group concluded that there was no code of conduct violation.

But Mr Garfield claims another developer later confronted him and took it upon himself to review Garfield’s online history.

This led to more problems for the techie and he claims Drupal project lead Dries Buytaert became involved, and was unsympathetic.

Mr Garfield said, ‘A group of people decided that they didn’t like my personal life.

‘They don’t approve of Gor, and so feel it appropriate to talk about me behind my back, violate my privacy, threaten me, bully me, and run me out of the project.

‘And they may have succeeded.’

In a blog post, Mr Buytaert defended the decision to expel Garfield.

But he added:

‘I also don’t take any offence to the role-playing activities or sexual preferences of Larry’s alternative lifestyle.’

He said he couldn’t support someone who ‘actively promotes [Gorean] philosophy because he believed in gender equality.

Mr Buytaert also suggested the developer had ommitted some relevant facts.

He wrote: ‘While I will not share the evidence that I believe would validate the decision that I made for reasons of liability and confidentiality, I will say that I did not make the decision based on the information or beliefs conveyed in Larry’s blog post.’

Metro.co.uk has contacted Drupal for a response.

Comment tom verhoeven (BDSMradio.EU/eng)
It's a shame that people still lost their jobs when they have a BDSM/Gorean lifestyle.
Very very sad.

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